Pip Reilly
Pip Reilly - Fertility Counsellor, Psychotherpist

Anger and Rage

Anger and Rage

Anger is the body’s physiological reaction to danger or threats. It gives you the extra boost you need to conquer fears, take action and escape difficult situations. Anger is normal ! Rage, on the other hand is not. Rage is anger that isn’t triggered by an actual threat. Instead, it’s caused by an irrational thought, an unreasonable expectation. Rage is also called intermittent Explosive disorder (IED) and it’s a mental disorder that negatively affects millions of men and women in the UK.

What are the predominant signs ?


Pounding heart - Muscle tension - Accelerated heartbeat - Changes in breathing - Trembling

Flushed face - Clenched fists



Loss of control over trivial issues - Violent impulses - Inability to face reality

Jealousy and resentfulness - Low frustration tolerance - Unreasonable expectations

Dominating behaviour - Melancholy or depression - Dominating behaviour

Suicidal tendencies.


Anger and the Brain:

When you get angry, your brain triggers the release of cortisol, adrenaline and catecholamine into the blood stream. These chemicals give your heart the boost it needs to get you through dangerous situations. The effect of anger on the brain shares a similar intoxicating quality to methamphetamines. And like meth. Anger can become addictive if experienced too often.


Causes of Anger

Anger is often caused by how a person thinks and interprets situations.

And the following are some types of thinking that can cause this often irrational anger.


Emotional Reasoning – People who reason emotionally are prone to confuse their own feelings with fact. Because of this, they will interpret an innocent conversation or event as an attack on them. This can lead to misplaced anger.


Low frustration Tolerance – Many things can cause frustration tolerance to decrease. It can be stress. It can be fatigue. It can be simply a hangover. Regardless of the cause, a low frustration tolerance can lead us to interpret normal things as a threat to our well-being or EGO.


Unreasonable expectations – individuals with unreasonable expectations expect the world to act how they want it to. If a person, or even an uncontrolled event, behaves differently than what’s expected, it’s easy to be frustrated and anger to irrupt.

People branding – People branding/rating is something we do …….. on occasion !!

When we label our boss a self-opinionated, self-centred, individual or our brother in law an idiot, we are actually going beyond having an opinion, we are actually dehumanising them and making it easier to get annoyed with them.


What can I do

Rage is dangerous. Not only could you damage property or explode at another person, you are also a threat to yourself. I am not just talking about bloody knuckles and a bruised ego. Excessive anger has been shown to raise blood pressure and even cause a heart attack. If you believe you are dealing with dysfunctional anger, it’s important that you seek professional help.

A therapist will likely work with you to determine the source of your anger, and provide you with behavioural techniques to disarm the rage, before you explode like a volcano. 


Pip Reilly

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